Obviously, it concerned me when child hid behind the drapes and declared “I am never going back to school.” It started with a little anxiety- a whine here and there- not wanting to go. Until one day it was all out screaming and clawing when I tried to leave.
We tried this public preschool because my little had qualified for speech therapy. The professionals were focused on helping her communicate, and this was the place where they felt they could help her the most. Ironically, soon after, she started communicating loud and clear that she didn’t like this school. At that point the professionals told me to ignore her anxieties and force her to go.
My thought was, “So, we teach her to communicate…but then ignore what she is communicating?”
What happened to my happy little girl? She wasn’t able to tell me exactly why she wouldn’t go at the time. Since then, in the quietest of moments, she has told more than a few things she didn’t like about that school.
The thing is, I am so glad I listened to her instead of the professionals. It isn’t that professionals don’t know their stuff- they do! But, I believe we should listen to what their spirit is screaming over a statistic or guideline or protocol.
I listened to what her heart was telling me through her actions. I followed my instincts.
When the twins announce that someone’s nail polish is “turquoise” I am impressed they know so many colors. But, it is so much more impressive that when they do something wrong, they feel they can tell me the truth. It is stunning when they show me their true hearts and reveal their innermost fears.
This morning my precious little girl woke and said “Mommy, you are just so sweet to me” and I said, “you are sweet to me as well baby.” More important than knowing the alphabet or saying the right thing or doing well in school: where is your heart, little one? Do you know how loved you are?
This excerpt is from magicalchildhood.com which I enjoyed, because I didn’t necessarily acknowledge any of this until I had kids of my own. But, what could be more important than what we hold in our heart of hearts?
“What a 4 year old should know:
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